“Abusive behavior; physical, sexual, verbal, emotional such as: controlling, demeaning, manipulation, and financial, is ALWAYS the fault of the abuser. One NEVER brings any aspect of this upon oneself, caused it or EVER deserves the behavior. I always understood this in regard to others, professional and with friends, I did not understand this in regard to myself, until now.”

Jessica Anne Pressler, MSW, CSW, LCSW

Despite being a trained professional, I am an unintentional traitor. The letters after my name show the experience I have accumulated in my professional life, career, and education but do not reflect the experiences lived in my personal life. Whilst knowledge is power, I was powerless over the inner dialogue that manipulated my every move… until I wasn’t.

I decided now was the time to share my story with the intention of empowering others, building a healing, supportive community and connecting with others who have experienced abuse. I look forward to connecting with you all. @jessicaannepressler on all social media platforms…

Everyone has a story, I wrote mine in a book.
Everyone has a history. Here’s mine… (coming 2025)

I have often felt that my life unraveled in a series of chapters, long before I ever thought of writing a book. I was NOT the girl that married her high school sweetheart and lived happily ever after. Don’t get me wrong, that sounds amazing, but it was not my path. I did, however, marry my high school sweetheart at 20. I divorced when I was 26. I married 3 more times. I dated many men… and a couple of women in between. 

More than 20 years ago, I went to see a psychic in New York City with my friend Margaret. She told me that Margaret and I were prostitutes together in a previous life, and I was going to write a successful book. We left laughing at both revelations. However, five years later, I started writing. Whilst my writing process has evolved, from a cork board with tacked on notes to emailing drafts back and forth on my laptop, my intention remains the same; to empower others in a similar position. I am not formally trained as a writer, I do however have a bachelor’s degree in psychology, a master’s in clinical social work and have worked many years as a psychotherapist. I know with my education, experience and honesty I can truly help others. I hope that people will benefit from my trials and tribulations to avoid the pain that I have endured. I can help readers realize that they are not alone and help them not repeat the pattern. The evolution of my writing mirrored my personal growth. What started 15 years ago as a factual textbook-form study in classic themes; fear of abandonment, attachment theory and childhood trauma matured as I did. The book has developed into a brave, no holds barred tale of a trained psychotherapist caught in recurrent graphic, often erotic scenarios and blind to her own lurid fate. My focus is on living as a truthteller in a world of lies.  

Jessica Anne Pressler is a Columbia University alumni, with a masters in clinical social work. She is licensed in both New Jersey and in California as a LCSW. Jessica is (finally) happily married and lives by the beach in California with her husband and dogs.